Whewww chileeeeee! Talk about triggered early in the morning. Here I am minding my own business (I promise I really was), getting ready for my daily dose of The Breakfast Club, and boom I hear the foolery of the day. Yes you read that right... Today June 12, 2019 has been declared #NationalBlackMenDontCheatDay and they put a beat and lyrics to it. (Insert palm to face emoji)


Now I've heard Charlamange say this quite often on the show, but the fact that its a whole hash tag had me "in my feelings. It feels as though they are simply making a joke out of society normalizing cheating or are they? It is still out for debate on if all black men cheat, but from my own personal and I mean personal experience, Black Men, in fact do cheat.


Again I can't say it is all of them because I would like to think my daddy, who has been married to my mother for almost 50 years, hasn't cheated. But in today's day an age, being monogamous, is a thing of the past. It is much trendy to have a bunch of women ready to fight over you than to have one woman to hold you down. I don't even know if we can blame it on upbringing because I've been cheated on by men with both parents, one parent, no parents, etc. There is always a need or feeling that they want to fulfill aka EGO. I will say they all have apologized at some time or another admitting that they were stupid, but "who are me to judge" (Andre Caldwell voice).


Side note: Just realized how bitter I sound, I better bring this up in my next therapy session! Ok carry on...


Putting my past experiences of being cheating on to the side, it made me wonder at what age does this Black Men Don't Cheat Movement begin? Or should I say stage? I ask because most men go through their hoe phase for years and years before they decide to get their life together (even when they are married... no tea no shade... I ain't talking bout your man sis sheesh). Perfect example: Jay-Z. Literally wrote a lyric that said "I got the hottest chick in the game wearing my chain"; and even after marrying Beyonce and having a child with her, HE CHEATED. How the heck do you cheat on Beyonce? I mean Jay-Z is well into his 40's, so its interesting that a man of his caliber with literally the most sought after woman in the world, would cheat. What stage was he in that caused him to cheat and what is the stage after they cheat and realize it isn't worth it that they stop? Asking for a friend of course.


I want to believe this Black Men Don't Cheat movement, but truthfully, Y'all need More People. I wish there were more recent stories of love success without scandal and heartbreak. Why does it take cheating for someone to realize what they have/had? Why is it that it is only at a certain stage men have their light bulb kick on and realize that its easier to be faithful than to cheat? What exactly are they looking for anyway?Anywho, after all my feelings came out... I got to thinking. What if there was a national Black Women Don't Cheat Day? How would that make men feel? Or do we even care? Well let me sip this purely filtered water and go back to these thirst trap tweets about how #BlackMenDontCheat


Check out the new summer anthem here lol : Black Men Don't Cheat by Lil Duval feat Charlamagne


XoXo,Chelle


I have not always been the type to show love to myself. I would love everyone else, I'm talking about compliments and doing for, before I would do for myself. I really wanted approval from others and let that guide the way I loved on myself. I put alot of energy into others and now that I am maturing I realize the importance of loving myself. Self love is important because how can I can give true love if I don't love myself first. How can I be good for others if I am not good for myself? Answer is I Can't.


Now I take time to care about myself and love on me. I stress the importance of me time to my family so that they understand Mama just needs some time so I can continue to be a great mom. I take breaks at work when I get too stressed and overwhelmed. I FOCUS ON ME. I believe this is helping me to truly live my best life. I can't express the way I feel most days. It is still a process but even just understanding myself more has truly helped me to love on ME. So lets take a second and reflect on your own Self Love. What are ways that you show self love?


Isis Ella Jewels owner Erica, released a Self Love box through her Jewel Box Subscription. This Self Love box is everything to help get you get started with Self Love/Self Care. She collaborated with two amazing ladies , The Visionary Miai and JournalJotandJive, and they were able to come up with some amazing products for your planner/journal. There are papers, acetate, die cuts, paper clips, notepad, and of course... STICKERS. My favorite is the notepad; It allows us to take a minute and reflect on our day and how we are feeling. I have actually been keeping one in my office so that I can write on it every couple days to help me refocus my thoughts.


I was not only blessed with a box, but she sent me an extra Self Love Box and A Crown Extras Box to giveaway to two lucky followers. I am giving my blog followers early access to the giveaway before I release the YouTube video. Here is the link to the giveaway https://gleam.io/cLE36/jewel-box-giveaway


XoXo,

E.


Special Thanks to Erica for her love and support. I appreciate your life!Make sure you visit the Jewel Box Website and Isis Ella Jewels for some amazing planner accessories!


Its so funny to say that we are on a tour but WE ARE ON A WORLD TOUR! LOL okay more like a US Tour, but hey we speaking it into existence. Right now we have a plan to hit 5 cities in 2019, which started with Atlanta in January. Next on the list is Memphis, then New York, then Texas, then Cali!


The workshops are an opportunity for you get face to face budgeting and money management techniques. We allow guests to ask questions and share stories. This workshop is a way to build your knowledge and also learn from not only the Budget Misses but from other peers as well.


I am excited about these workshops because I enjoy meeting people and helping. Being behind the camera is nice, but it is nothing like being able to reach out and touch! Come out and join us at the location nearest you. We will be posting dates for upcoming events on the Budget Misses Page here on my site.


XoXo,

E.